Questions for Reflection or Discussion
- Which of the nine types sounded most like you, and why?
- Is there something about that type that makes you feel especially uncomfortable or embarrassed?
- Is there something about that type that delights you?
- Every triad struggles with a particular difficult emotion: the Gut Triad with anger, the Heart Triad with shame, and the Head Triad with fear. Can you think of a time in your life when you were dealing with the emotion that is associated with your triad? How did that play out?
- Which of the four stages of SNAP do you think will be most challenging for you? Is it more difficult for you to stop what you’re doing, notice your patterns of behavior, ask questions of yourself or pivot to change your conduct?
- What is a default behavior that you employ when you are feeling anxious or stressed? In what ways is this behavior healthy or unhealthy?
- Think about this quote from the book: “We don’t know ourselves by what we get right; we know ourselves by what we get wrong.” Can you remember a time when your darker side taught you something important about yourself?
- Have you ever tried centering prayer or another form of meditation? If so, how did it feel? (If you are interested in centering prayer and would like to know more, I suggest reading Open Mind, Open Heart by Fr. Thomas Keating or Into the Silent Land by Martin Laird.)
Reading for next week: chapters 3, 4 and 5 of The Road Back to You.